Standards
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In my last entry I stated that me drinking underage no longer bothered me. In fact, it does bother me a great deal and I was wrong to state that. You see, in the past, I have always practiced abstinance of alcohol, drugs, and sex. A few weeks ago I allowed my standards to be lowered temporarily because I was caught up in the moment.
A conversation with one of my close friends allowed me to see that I had dropped my standards and that this was clearly not me and wrong. And to that friend, I thank you.
I have promised myself once again that I will continue my practice of abstinance and that if I break it again that I will have somebody close to me injure me in some severe fashion.
I believe as teenagers and young adults we go through a phase of self discovery. We make mistakes along the way seeing that it is our nature to make these said mistakes and the majority of us try to learn from these, and then there are those that make these mistakes and never look back on them, never maturing. So, the question is where I fit upon these two groups that I just mentioned.
I fit upon those that learn from their mistakes. I have made several mistakes in the past, which I will not name because I am not proud of them, but I have learned from these mistakes to the best of my ability.
A week ago I actually planned on going over to another one of my friend’s house to party, which would have involved drinking. My mother found out about this, but was noticably fine with it. My friend that was mentioned above had contacted me about drinking and I immediately canceled all of the plans.
So, it’s come to the end of this little entry about self discovery and vowing to keep my practice of abstinance going. Thank you friend, I’m sure you are reading this.
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Nate: You and your overly long smilies…
Hey, is this Nate from Rendezvous and Zeronokotae? it’s me, Claudia from Rendy =). You probably don’t remember me, but it seemed like you fell off the face of the earth ever since RMB closed. Just wanted to say hey.
BTW, that’s great that you did the right thing. Nice to see people taking the high road =]
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I actually don’t have a problem with underage drinking and sex to a certain extent. Drugs are another story, of course. The thing with drinking is that the reason it’s a problem is because the age limit is so high. In most European countries, the age limit is lower (16 in some places, 17 in others) and so teenagers learn responsible drinking earlier; however, since we live in countries where the limit is high (21 for you, only 19 for me), whenever a situation is presented to us where alcohol is present, our innate instinct is to not only drink some, but go overboard. Why? To fuck authority, that’s why. In this case, drinking is definitely a problem.
I, myself, have drank on a few occasions but always socially. There is a difference between drinking socially and drinking because you just want to get drunk. Unfortunately, that line is so heavily blurred for us because we always have to be hidden about our drinking, and therefore drink a lot, and fast, and get smashed.
Sex underage is something I don’t really think of as a huge issue again if it’s done responsibly. You’re ready when you’re ready (this goes for drinking, too). When that moment happens, it’s all right to go for it because you’re not going to be stupid about it. Forcing these things upon yourself too early is unnatural and that’s when problems begin. Getting these things forced upon you is even worse because then you lose even more control.
So really, if a moment comes up where you have the possibility to drink, don’t just shut down; if you don’t feel like drinking, don’t drink. If you do, however, feel like having a few drinks, than that’s fine. No one is going to get angry at you for simply being human, you just have to know your limits and by learning this younger you can save yourself from some pretty stupid mistakes in the future.
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